PROJECT BOOK

 
The Institute of Body Culture's publication, Looking for My Love, deals with our problems and
their possible solutions related to love, sex, dating and personal relationships, all of which make
up the constant concerns for youth. Within the book, we look into not only the elements of general
love, such as dating and separation, unrequited love and jealousy, skinship and sex, but also the
other social issues of marriage and non-marriage, hatred and conflict, pornography and sexual
perversion, and the way of love beyond heterosexuality—all concerning one's feelings of love. We
attempt to explain them via the perspective of humanities, delving into each of matters step by step,
one by one. Since its very foundation, the Institute of Body and Culture research has been devoted
to explain various social problems regarding the human body: the institute's book, Looking for My Love,
will therefore provide us with precious insights on how youth can overcome the growing pains resulting
from love and become more mature.
 

 
Introduction                                                                                                                                5
 
Part 1 - Love and Time: our love does change                                                                           17
 
Loving someone is too tough / How long can we stay lovey-dovey for each other, then?  /
Romantic love as a trap / Love that had to be obtained through struggle /
Love that changes and yet persists
 
Part 2 - The desire of irresistible skinship: sex within love, sex without love                                       47
 
Skinship, manifestation of ethnic will / We don't live like bonobos - yet we act like bonobos /
Eternal dilemma: body and mind set apart /
Moving toward an ontological love—not the love of ownership theory

Part 3 - Unrequited love, a journey back to myself from others                                                      79
 
Growth pain we all go through once in our lives / The ambiguity lies in Werther's unrequited love /
From love for beauty to love of sublimity / Secrecy of love - disallowed in the algorithmic world /
who will stand in for my love?
 
Part 4 - Jealousy                                                                                                                         113
   
Jealous Is it an ugly feeling? Jealousy and envy / There is no love without jealousy /
Envy is the devil's gaze / Jealousy be my strength
 
Part 5 - Every breakup hurts                                                                                                   143
 
There's no such thing as an easy breakup / What kind of breakup am I doing /
To dump somebody or to be dumped / Can I ever prevent the breakup? /
What our separations will give us
 
Part 6 - Unmarried: neither a spinster nor a so-called 'gold miss'                                                    173
 
From unmarried to being married / How has marriage been reproduced? /
Marriage in the eyes of young women / Concerns and criticisms aimed at those who are unmarried /
Living together or living alone: neither is ever easy
 
Part 7 - Porn addiction and sexual perversions                                                                           199
 
Just how many porns do you watch? / What is 'sexual perversion'? / Real sex and fake sex /
Sex in the true sense
 
Part 8 - Men, women, and their eternal war                                                                               227
 
Misogyny / Men and women / Separating sides / Love, the smallest unit of union
 
Part 9 - Diversity of Love                                                                                                           261
 
A youth in lonesome hue / Smashing prejudice against homosexuality /
Are only mothers, fathers, and children the appearance of a family? /
Various forms of love in Greek Mythology / Love has many different faces